Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome and the Symptoms

Author:  Debra Verville

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Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome is something that many question if it actually is real or not. Go to any medical question and answer website that has a women's issue section and I can bet you find at least one woman or man asking about it.
Is Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome real? Well, ask any woman who is living through it or ask a husband or partner of this woman. Those in the medical community do not technically recognize post Tubal Ligation Syndrome but there are physicians that do know it is real and happens.
Why is it not recognized? There are different theories for this. Some believe that the surgeons do know it is real but there is no enough evidence to prove it. Others feel it is because it is cheaper for the insurance companies to pay for the tubal ligation rather than pregnancy and well care after the birth.
Whether it is recognized is not the problem here. It is the women, men and families that are affected by PTLS. The woman is in a body that she feels she doesn't even recognize anymore. She has fits of rage and moods. She is short-tempered with her family. Before the ligation she was never like this. The words "slight cramps" are something of the past. The word "cramp" has now turned into pain, no more no less.
The monthly cycle shouldn't even have the name monthly attached to it. It is about three weeks of actual bleeding that leaves a woman exhausted and anemic or close to it.
The feelings that surround a woman while enduring the throes of PTLS are horrible. She is feeling guilt for being short-tempered, she is frustrated with herself for letting this happen to her. And she is lost at where to turn for help. Many physicians will tell a woman it is in her head or it has to do with age. Though many know this isn't the case.
When a woman goes to the physician many times they will tell her to begin using birth control pills and put her on antidepressants. What is this going to do and why birth control if she has had her tubes tied? Isn't that defeating the whole purpose?
For those women that have had their tubes tied and are going through this, you are not alone. And better yet, you are not nuts. There are women who are going through the same thing. There are women that are willing to talk to others about the trouble they had to get physicians to listen to them.
What did they do to get help and relief? They had tubal ligation reversal surgery. Did they get better? Yes, almost immediately they began to see the symptoms getting better and those that didn't disappear right away subsided gradually.

Cute Birthday Gifts for Women

Author:  P. Lakelander

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Now if you are a guy, you should sit down for a bit and stop thinking about getting her a present. Instead think back on some of the hidden hints you might have been given, but just didn't think about. From my experience women tend to be a lot more subtle than men, and many times men just don't pick up on the non-direct clues they have been given us. Men want to be direct and we need quite obvious hints some times, gifts for women are hard sometimes and we are used to straight forward suggestions or "orders" if you like to call it that...What is a good birthday gift for her birthday, so they can go out and get it and make her happy. Remember that the time you put into the birthday gift for her will actually exceed the real value of the gift.
I will show how a list of how a teddy bear can be a perfect gift for a woman

1. Huge Bears as birthday gifts for women
2. Customized Bears as birthday gifts for women
3. The specific brand off Gund, Vermont, Steiff Bears as perfect gifts for women.
4. Miniature Bears as birthday gifts for women.

1. Huge Bears as birthday gifts for women. Say you two just became parents and it is her birthday soon. You have to consider that and all that comes with it when you start looking for a birthday present for her. It is time to breastfeed the little toddler and it is hard for her to hold the child right since there is no suitable pillow around to hold her arm up. You cannot be there all the time to lean on. A Huge teddy bear would suit well as a gift for her since it is large enough for her to lean on, and it is soft so it is no problem to feel relaxed. This is also a good present for her since it also a good place to cuddle with her toddler. Can you picture yourself it?
2. Customized Bears as birthday gifts for women If she feels unappreciated and seems sad during the days a customized bear might be the perfect gift for her. Imagine it in your head. It is soft, it is cute and it is designed in her favorite colors and with your and hers name on it. A symbol of your eternal love that will bring tears from her eyes.
3. The Specific brand off Gund, Steiff and Vermont Bears as birthday gifts for women. Say you want to give her a gift and want her to have something that will last a long time. A teddy from Vermont, Gund or Steiff can be a much appreciated birthday present for her.
4. Miniature Bears as birthday gifts for women. They are small and easy to carry around; it can fit in her purse or even in her key chain. And it will always remind her of your thoughtful gift just for her when she starts her car. Or when she is at a meeting and it is getting a little boring to listen on her boss ranting on so she glances at that small cute teddy that reminds her of you. These bears will suit as perfect birthday gifts for women depending on the situation. But, just some thoughts to help you on the right track for thinking thoughtfully about getting the perfect birthday gifts for women, hope it helps.
If you are a woman. Make sure your man hear about this page. There is much to learn and i know i am not totally wrong here. Teddy bears are great birthday gifts for women. And this page might be a "subtle" way to learn how to get you a good gift.
If you are a guy. It is not a bad idea to read this page through. Finding the right birthday gift for her is important and it doesn't always have to be a teddy, but name one woman that hasn't a bear saved from her youth? Send your buddies here as well so they can get a chance to find some good birthday gifts for women.
One last note about getting birthday gifts for women If you get a cute bear as a birthday gift for her that is either large, small, custom-made or is a specific brand, you should not end it there.... It just isn't enough, they expect more, they might not say it but they do. They want the cherry on top of the cream. My advice would be to top it off with a nice set of flowers or high quality chocolate. It is never wrong...
Now think about this and look around for some cute bears for her

Job Not Working? How To Fix It

What if your daily life habits were actually secret clues that held the key to reconstructing your work-life or business to make it fit you? How would it change your happiness meter if you looked forward to going to work every day?

I had a client who began to notice that he dreaded going to work. This was perplexing to him because he generally enjoyed his job. His energy and enthusiasm were dwindling and he was ruminating about quitting even though he knew he needed to keep working.

He tried several changes to reverse his downward slide. For example, during the morning commute he switched from listening to news to singing along with his favorite tunes, he tried changing his exercise routine, even driving a different route to work to shake things up. No luck. Walking up to his office building every day was beginning to resemble walking the plank.

As I listened to him describe his job, it was clear that he did not dislike what he was doing. We decided that rather than developing more surface, fix-it strategies we would look for clues to uncover what was working well in his life. Finding the right clues would yield strategies that he could apply to his work life.

I asked him to think of the first event that happened during a typical day that brought him a positive feeling. He puzzled for a moment and then began to smile as he described his first cup of morning coffee. He talked about sitting on his back deck viewing a small pond that he could just make out in the distance through the morning fog. He could usually hear birds singing and see sunlight filtering through the trees.

We examined his story in detail to figure out what it meant to him. He listed his clues as: being alone, sense of clarity, having plenty of time to think and viewing a powerful scene in the distance.

What began to emerge was his need for solitude, visioning time and feeling calm. I asked him to describe what happens as he enters his office each day.

He grimaced. It turns out that as soon as he got to work the staff was waiting almost hungrily for him. They tended to pepper him with questions as he walked past their desks to reach his large, windowless office. His motivation to produce his best work took a nosedive before he could even start the day.

Many of my client’s worst moments occurred when other people dictated his pace at the start of his day. He realized if he was going to stay at this job, he had to create a workspace that allowed him to work his way.

To be effective, he needed to control his ‘ease in’ pace so that he could maximize his natural strengths. It was as if he was coming to work and started writing with his left hand even though he was right handed. It immediately made him uncomfortable and his performance suffered.

A new plan emerged. His idea was to arrive at the office thirty minutes before his staff came to work. This allowed him to plan his day at his pace. With the full support of his boss, he was able to add 30 additional minutes to his lunch break and take a long walk at lunch allowing him to think and experience the outdoors each day.

This was a winning solution for both my client and his employer. My client was able to produce the quality of work in the way he wanted to resulting in a positive upward spike in his feelings about going to work. The employer was able to keep a very valuable contributor.

How to Make Your Work Fit You:

1. When in your day are you at your best?
2. What exactly are you doing? Thinking, doodling, talking to people, reading, exercising?
3. What is the hardest part of your day? What exactly are you doing?
4. Take what you discover in step 2 and incorporate it into the hardest part of your day to customize your day to fit you so you can be at your best.

Never underestimate the difference one small change can make if you make the right change.

Elizabeth Partin works with career professionals expanding their options by adding solo entrepreneur to their resume. Visit http://trueoutcomecoaching.com and http://trueoutcome.blogspot.com for resources and contact. "

By Elizabeth Partin

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What Motivates You at Work?

Written by Louise Morganti Kaelin

Have you ever thought about what motivates you? What gets—and keeps—you going? When we know WHY we do something, we can use that information to accomplish more. Knowing what motivates us will help us achieve our goals, both personal and professional. No matter what we do for a living, or where we do it, the things that motivate us to work can probably be found on the following list. Many of us believe that the only reason we work is to earn money. Although there is no question that money, or what it buys (rent, food, etc.), is a prime motivator, money alone does not create the sense of fulfillment and accomplishment that many of us are seeking. According to LIMRA International, a research association, it's a good idea to prioritize the following motivators for yourself. Once you've identified what works for you, share it with your boss. If you are the boss, ask your employees to prioritize their motivators. Whether you're the boss, the employee, or it's just you (a work-at-home mom or a solopreneur), this is important information for you to know. INDEPENDENCE The freedom to run your business activities as you wish; the opportunity to "be your own boss” Do you ever feel restricted? Do you feel overcome by rules and red tape? Do you often feel in disagreement with superiors? RECOGNITION The rewards you get for doing a job well, such as being singled out in a publication or speech. How important is winning to you? How do you feel when others receive recognition? Do you go out of your way to win awards? ACHIEVEMENT The feeling that you get from successfully accomplishing a job, overcoming obstacles and obtaining goals Is your performance relative to your effort? How do you feel when you have completed a task? What kind of goals do you set for yourself? LEISURE TIME The amount of time that you have free to use as you wish, and the degree of enjoyment that you get from this time Do you find yourself neglecting things? Have you postponed a desired activity? Do you really enjoy your leisure me? POWER The sense of control that you believe you have over your destiny and the destiny of others; your ability to influence or direct the behavior of others Do you feel that you have control over your destiny? Do people tend to lean on you, ask for your approval? Do you find yourself doing things you'd rather not do? PRESTIGE The respect accorded you by your peers and by business or community associates; how others feel you compare with your peers Is prestige important to you? Do others tend to hold you in esteem? Do you find yourself performing to gain esteem? MONEY The amount of personal financial income provided by your job Are you proud of what you earn? Do you tend to talk about money or how you spend, save, or invest it? PRESSURE The constant feeling or need to show continuing improvement in your job performance Do you feel guilty about not exerting enough effort? Do you continually feel that you must do more? Do you require continual motivation from superiors? SELF ESTEEM Your feeling of self-worth; how you feel you measure up to your peers Are you confident that you do as well as you can? Do you feel guilty about poor performance? Are you satisfied with your performance? FAMILY LIFE The amount and quality of family activities in which you engage Do you spend enough time with your family? Is the time you do spend meaningful? Do family members talk about the time you spend with them? SECURITY The certainty that you feel of maintaining your position; the feeling that tomorrow will be at least as good as today Is job security important to you? Are you afraid to try something new? Do you do things that tend to secure your job? PERSONAL GROWTH The feeling of growing as an individual or becoming more competent, more efficient—a better person Do you think that you have grown over the past year? Do you do specific things that result in improvement? Do you have plans for doing more? Now that you've prioritized this list, you should have a clearer idea of what motivates you at work. It's not just money, is it? careers, Jobs Indonesia, Indonesia Vacancy

Tips for Women Who Want to Work Well with Men

Written by John Gray, Ph.D.

John Gray, one of the world's foremost communication experts, offers 32 tips to help you understand, respect and benefit from the differences between women and men and how they operate, both in and out of the workplace. 1. When presenting a proposal or plan of action, talk less about the problem and more about what you think should be done. 2. Be direct when you make a request. Don't talk about a problem and wait for him to offer his support. Often men feel manipulated when women are not direct. It is as if he "should do it" without your having to ask. 3. Give him more space when he moans or groans. Don't give him a pat on the back. Avoid doing anything that demonstrates a feeling of motherly empathy. 4. Get to the point when making a suggestion. Avoid talking too much about problems. Remember, men hear sharing as complaining. 5. Only complain when you have a solution to suggest. Take less time to explain the problem and quickly move on to suggest a solution. 6. After asking for his advice, be careful not to correct his solution or explain in great detail why you are not going to follow his advice. By allowing him to save face, a woman gains points. 7. Give credit and recognition whenever he has achieved something. 8. In public build him up. If you want to point out a mistake or suggest a change, do it in private. 9. Graciously interrupt in a group meeting. Don't say, "Can I say something?" Instead, go with the flow and say something more friendly like, "That's true, I think . . ." 10. Use a relaxed and trusting tone of voice when discussing work problems. Men are repelled by the tone of being emotionally overwhelmed. 11. Stay focused on the task at hand and postpone the sharing of personal feelings. Keep your work life and personal life separate. 12. When asking for support, keep your emotions out of it and focus on stating what you want. Take time to justify your request if you are asked why you need more. 13. If you must complain to your manager or coworker, be objective and avoid making value judgments like, "It's not fair" or "He isn't doing his job." Instead say, "He was three hours late. I was the only one there to do a job that requires two people." 14. If there is too much being expected of you, ask for the support you need, but don't complain. He reasons, "Don't waste time complaining, instead do something to get the support you need." 15. When making a presentation or discussing something, don't be overly eager or automatically reassuring while listening. Let him feel that he is earning your agreement and support. 16. Pace yourself. After listening to a man, let him know that something is helpful before you bring up more issues or questions. 17. Share your experience to back up a request and don't quote an expert. For example, don't say, "John Gray says you should listen to me more . . . ." Instead say, "I would appreciate it if you would listen a little longer before responding." 18. Stay on schedule. Let a man know up front how long you expect a meeting to last. 19. Distance yourself. As a manager, depersonalize your directions with comments like, "We are expected to . . ." and then ask him to do what you want with a phrase like, "Would you . . ." or "Please . . ." 20. Shake hands. When a man comes into the room and you are sitting, stand up and shake hands as equals. 21. When stress increases, act as if everything is OK. Worrying or showing concern about him can be offensive. A more relaxed response demonstrates a level of trust that says, "I'm sure you can handle it." 22. If you are in a supportive role, rather than do everything in an invisible manner, sometimes ask in a friendly tone, "Would you like me to . . ." In this way, he realizes how much you do and can give you the points you deserve. 23. Don't ask a man how he feels about something; instead ask what he thinks about something. By appreciating his logic, you can score a point. 24. Introduce yourself. In a business setting in which many people are being introduced, introduce yourself so that the male host doesn't have to remember everyone's name and introduce each person. 25. When introducing a man to others, always include his accomplishments, expertise, or role in the company. 26. When you disagree or are challenged by others in a group meeting, stick to your argument and do not digress by sharing how you personally feel. Even if you have a better point, you may be discredited because of your emotional delivery. 27. If an argument has already become emotionally charged,gracefully find a way to take a break. Say something like, "Give me some time to think about this and then let's talk again." Overcome the temptation to say, "You're not being fair." or "You are not listening to me." "Excuse me for that outburst." also works well. 28. Don't take it personally. Recognize that most men don't like being told what to do. If your job requires that you give him instructions, to minimize the inevitable tension, prepare him by saying, "Is this a good time to review some changes?" or "Let's schedule a time when we can meet. I have some changes I need to convey." 29. Be clear about the tasks you want. When dividing up projects or tasks, state clearly which ones you want or prefer. Women don't get points from men for being uncertain and saying, "What do you want to do?" You get points for clarity if you know what you want and then even more points if you make a reasonable compromise. 30. Celebrate the completion of a long or important project. Men, and women, greatly appreciate special occasions to celebrate or recognize people and their contributions. Give awards, certificates, or presents. 31. If you don't have an answer or a solution, don't let on right away. Always appear confident. Avoid the phrase, "I am still working that one out." 32. Display your awards, certificates, and degrees on the walls of your office. Display pictures of you with successful people or involved with different work projects. If a man shows interest, describe your success with a tone of confidence. careers, Jobs Indonesia, Indonesia Vacancy